I agree completely with Donna and the others, give her only what is required. You can always help the kids out directly, not through a permanent situation like renting her a house.
Let her go completely and then see how much she misses you.
SD
PS - thanks for the PMA boost, I need it right now.
Me 41 W 41 Kids: S9 S7 Married 16 years Bomb dropped 2/2/07 Still living together! current thread