Thanks, ST, for that (very gentle) slap. You're right, of course---he can't see anything but himself right now, not even his children. And me pointing it out to him might make him feel guilty (or not), but even that has to come from him, not me.
And thanks for the reminder about the expectations. I have to expect nothing from him. I was so angry that I wasn't able to appreciate the first thing he wrote, which was that he wanted to tell me what happened last night so that I didn't imagine it was something "more fun" than it was. I can appreciate that tiny spark of sensitivity, but I was so angry with him I didn't just say "Thanks."
48-hour rule. Good thinking.
I feel like I've just had a huge setback vis-a-vis him, and I'm going to have to get back up on that horse. Anyway, thanks again for your thoughts and encouragement.
