H wrote to explain that he'd been at a party when OW began feeling ill (she suffers serious health problems), so he and her sister stayed with her until she fell asleep at 5 am. Then he closed his eyes in his car and next thing he knew it was 7:30.
I didn't take time to think and emailed back, "Here's what I think happened. You chose to stay with OW---who wasn't alone---because you wanted to. You had agreed it's best for the kids that things stay normal, and yet you chose what you wanted over their best interest."
He shot back, "I regret nothing, except falling asleep, blah blah blah." Then I blew it with a sarcastic reply.
Then he wrote, "Your sarcasm notwithstanding, what would you think about going to counseling together? The two of us can't have all the answers ourselves."
Huh?
On a brighter note, I just went back and read some of my own posts on others' strings, and I really need to take my own advice. I let the fact that this was about the kids goad me into lashing out, and while it is partly about the kids, it's also mightily about me. I haven't shown H any anger about what he's doing to me, but it's seeping out re the kids. I've got "But it's about the kids!" and, re OW, he's got, "But it's a serious health issue!" We're neither of us being really honest. I need to get a grip. Feel free to slap me.
We'll have to talk about the counseling thing. I imagine he's thinking better communication, better coparenting, etc, but I guess if it's good counseling, maybe it can't hurt.
What do you think? Can good counseling hurt if one partner has absolutely zero desire to work on the M?
