It must be nice to hear your suspiscions about how the OM will look when he shows his true colors are correct. You are right, though, not to assume that she will come running back to you just because things w/ OM aren't rosy. You don't want her coming back to you for that reason anyway. You seem to know what you want and what you don't want and that is awesome!
I know it has to be hard to watch her go on the downward spiral that she is going on, though. It might be what she has to do in order to really get her life back together. I have so many people telling me that they pray for my H to be 'broken', which makes me laugh to hear them say that, but I understand what they mean by it. Sometimes you have to hit bottom before you can even think about heading back up.
As far as the money issue, with it being your inheritance, it is truly your money, and I can see how it would be irritating to know that W and OM are salivating over getting their hands on it. I agree w/ Nikki, that I would give her the % of money over buying a house for her. Can you still change the amount of the % that you give to her? I am sure you are more than aware that she will not be happy with you lowering the amount of money that she gets. If you are prepared for the fallout from that, then go for it.
