Truly Piecing once and for all!

[Heartbroken]

Thanks Theo! I am very thankful things have turned out the way they have for me - us...it is so scary how close we came to the D path - if we would have filed I doubt I would have backed down - my heart could not take another beating...

Lovely Olive,

The pattern with my H is he would get VERY sad or mean to me when OW was pushing him. He was good at omitting that they had started up, but each time when I confronted him he would admit it and not lie. He just waited until I pulled it out of him. This last go around started up mid may and I knew by Memorial day they were at it again (after a 6-8 week hiatus where he and I were connecting). The thing is they need to keep fueling this addiction at the costs of their whole lives with us..it is so sad but the selfishness they are at is not even understandable to us LBS's. I think my H finally snapped out of it when his OW was manipulating him (which was really all along - but now he could recognize it for what it was). I am not saying he did not have a hand in their whole sorid existence - just that each time he tried to pull away she would reel him back in. Hopefully some day he will tell me what was the final straw that broke his back - for now he's not ready to admit what really ended it. He says he feels stupid for starting it back up in May...

Overall we are doing great - I am still somewhat guarded. I fear I am going to wake up and this has all been a dream for the last 7 weeks... I also am afraid of the rug being pulled from underneath me. But I cannot live on 'what ifs' so I am taking each day for what it is worth...I am thankful to be given this chance to fix 'us'!!!

I wonder how your sitch would be diff if you two could live apart? Maybe then your H would see what his life would really be like w/out you...I know DB'ing says not to separate - but I belive that helped my H get through it sooner...

Take care and I hope you are taking care of YOU!!

HB