Oh the dark cloud over the house!!! I totally understand! \:\( I feel like H and I wear a "Our Marriage Sucks" banner around when we are out together. When H is here, I feel like I am drowning or choking, but when he isn't here, I am lonely. So not fair!!!

I hope your H realizes soon and owns up to the need to actually "quit" his job. You have stated what you want, and as tough as it is for me to learn too, we can't *make* them do anything. Even if you forced it and he did quit, it still wouldn't be him doing it, and that wouldn't be good. Focus on all the good things going on!