Today we went out as a family to go bowling. My S has been bugging us to go for a long time. I hate bowling, so I thought this would be a good demonstration of how I was willing to be flexible and accomodating. W beat me quite soundly the first round. She is definitely the better bowler and was very happy that she was kicking my butt. Probably why I dislike it so much. I did much better the second round and beat her, although her average was better than mine. I actually had a very nice time with W and kids.
Had dinner and after the kids were finished, she started talking a little about the R. I really held back this time. She asked what my feelings really were about going through with the D. I told her that I really wasn't thrilled with the idea and that what I really wanted was to work on us. I asked her about her mothers D from her father. Interestingly enough (and I don't know why I didn't know this before), same situation. Her M told F that she wasn't feeling it, didn't want to work on it. In their case though, the F left quickly without any fight. Seems as though W is following in M's footsteps, but she thinks she'll do things differently. That our situation will be different.
W asked if it would be okay if she goes out tonight with a girlfriend. I have no problem with that. She's going out quite often now and I'm starting to feel bad for the kids. They always ask where mommy is and when she'll be back. It's getting old now.
