I still don't feel so muchits anger as much as tired of only getting what she wants to give.We did end up going to the movies with the kids yesterday and set up the pool at my house and cooked out on the grill.We did have a small talk friday when she was going to the bar but it turned out ok.Taking one day at a time.Its funny because she keeps bringing up that I was the one that pushed the D.All I did was tell her after a year that she needed to work on something or do something and she chose D.This should be a lesson to all,start DBing as soon as you can.
Call it anger frustration, fatigue, but I guarantee, it shows. Also, you will never alter her perception of the situation.
What diod you talk about?
Also, why is this woman going to the bar so often? This is a problem. And if she decides to come back, it may be a bigger problem than you can imagine.
I agree it can be a problem but it is alot less than before,she went with her cousin for a little while.Sunday she wanted to go to a movie so we went and ate went to a movie then put up the pool.Monday I was at work and she stopped and wanted to go shopping so we went shopping and out to eat,we took the kids.Other than that I have just been doing my thing and hanging back. The other night she knew i was upset she was going to the bar and I told her I felt she was going to see this OG. She denied and i said thats fine but if she is interested in him she needs to deal with that and I will go on.She got upset then and denied over and over that anything was going on.I just said whatever just be careful.So the next day is when she wanted to go to movie and do all the other stuff.After putting up the pool and cooking out she even stayed and watched TV while I was outside.She comes over and makes her self at home for sure.
As I was reading your last response, my thought were "so what." So what if she does all that. Accept what is going on and don't let it bug you. You made a choice as to how you will procede. As I said before, you can change your mind any time.
One other thing I have noticed. Dude, you can obsess with the best of 'em. I say that because I have been there. You try and analyze every move, but in the end, there is nothing to analyze.
I'll agree with that I am alot better obsesser than DBer.It is surprising how much better I feel by not obsessing. Last night she asked if we wanted to go eat with herso we did and she came to the house and we all just relaxed.I am working on building a comfort zone instead of a R right now.
I can obsess with the best of em so I know what you mean. My W did/is doing the bar thing too. I absolutely hate it with a passion, but there is nothing I can do about it. She is calling you and wanting to spend time with you. Man that is so awesome. Sounds like dating to me, and that is exactly what I was hoping would happen in my sitch, it just didnt work out like that at all. If it had, I think we might have had a better chance of it.
Just one question. Your thread title is piecing after D, I didnt realize you were actually divorced already, is that right? If so, can you tell me how you went about getting her into your life again, bout how long it took, and all that? You can post it on my thread if you want to, I do need some inspiration from time to time, as you know Im in the middle of a D now myself.
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