Well I guess my history is past on here

[sandi2]

imLin......I was re-reading some of your posts and I just wanted to tell you about my daughter. She was diagnosed as a very "brittle" Type I Diabetic when she had just turned 15 years old. I did know what that word "brittle" meant whent the medical staff kept using it. But, it meant that she could not get the blood sugar under control. It would bounce all over the place regardless of how she ate, took care, or not. Well, over the years she has come so close to death's door that it is unreal. She is on diability now and her poor little body has been through so very much....she barely weighs over a 100 lbs. She is tired of fighting to stay alive and that worries me.

I don't tell you all this to make you feel badly or to cause you more distress over your own husband's diabetes. But, sweetie, trust me when I say, that as a parent of a Type I Diabetic....and in teenage rebellion to boot....you have to sort of use the same techniques on them as you do in DB. It is horrible for the loved one who is sort of their "care-giver" in lots of ways. However, as the very first doctor told my D, it is her disease....not her mother's. She has to take responsibility. Well, the sad thing about it was that she really thought that she was going to die any minute and so she tried to burn the candle at both ends and really messed her life up. Very long story and wouldn't even start to tell it. However, to show God's grace and to show that He is in control....she will turn 41 next month. (I got pregnant with her the first month I was married, and she was born 2 weeks early. If she had come any earlier, she would have embarrased us.....lol) Anyway.....the thing is this....the very first doctor she had, unfortunately, told her she would never live to see 25! Isn't that something? That was one reason she went into a tail-spin of rebellion, plus she was very, very mad at God for allowing that to happen to her.

Well, I could go on and on about it, but the thing I had to learn was to certainly use tough love....at the pert. times. When it comes to their diet, excersise, etc.....we can't control them or force them to do what we want them to do....or not to do. Just like in our MR! It is so hard.....I know! I would get so frustrated with her I could have pinched her head off. I cried, begged, threatened.......everything I could think of, but nothing worked. Sound familiar? Yes, it is hard to see them doing things that we know is killing them slowly, but it is their choice and you know what? They resent it terribly when we are always reminding them they are a diabetic.....(not that you do, but I'm just saying what has happen to my D) as if they had forgotten! My BIL would always say something to my D every time we had a family holiday meal about she shouldn't be eating something cause she had diabetes. Amazing! Did he think she forgot? lol

She has had people who barely know her, but know she is a diabetic, look in her shopping cart to see what type groceries she is buying....and make a comment about it. I could go on and on with stories about her experience at the hospital and the mistreatment from the medical staff b/c they thought she was there due to her "misbehavior".......never would think of treating a cancer patient like that! Guess you could compare to the way some Aid's patients are treated.

Oh, sorry, didn't mean to go on so long about all that. But, I do understand your frustration with your H in that catagory. Just something we kind of have in common. So, look me up and vent all you want to. Besides, it's your turn to vent to me....lol.