I think buying a house and letting them live in it rent free is fair enough, and though it is in some ways controlling, I don't believe it is unreasonable. Why should she get &125,000 to $250,000 of which came from the death of MY family? I can't really come up with one solid reason, and the more I think about it, I need to protect this money for ME and MY KIDS -- NOT FOR HER!
I wondered when you'd get to this conclusion.
I agree with you that she's not entitled to the money - I'd go for what she's legally entitled to and that's all, personally. Have you signed anything legally yet saying she'd get the $$?
As for the rest, I definitely would NOT buy a house "for" her and the kids to live in. That's way too controlling, way too much enmeshment in her future life, and just wrong on soo many levels. Let her figure out where she'll live and how, that's not your place anymore. As long as it's safe for the kids, that's all you need to be concerned with.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
