Dave you are getting the hang of this, just know that there is still a lot to learn, about yourself as well. Make the most of this time to live and grow. It may be the best gift your W ever gave you!
I agree , I am learning every day , trying small things without doing anything that would be seen as too much pressure.
I kind of have a handle on where W is right now , due in some part to what she has said from time to time and from being observant.
Firstly I dont think she likes her current situation at all. She would like to come home but there are reasons she cant yet.
1 is she has not been able to forgive herself yet and will be very unsure of me and whether I am able to forgive her and not bring up her A everytime we argue. 2 Is getting back together for convenience a mistake. Can she find me attractive again? Will it last ?, can she trust herself ?
She dose not want me to move on right now , she has shown that , she wants some more time. With this there will be no guarantee because she has no idea right now herself of the answers.
My job is to give her time , get on with my life as best I can and try and build up that attraction.
Last thing I did was when she dropped D off , I could tell she was down due to issues at work. So that evening I txt her asking if she could handle a visiter. She txt back OK. So I called with chocolate and something to drink. Gave her the time to talk about what was on her mind. Worked out real well.
Today she will be spending some time here at home so if she stays for dinner , I will do something special.
I think that doing stuff she does not expect and not too frequently , try and get some fun back .
