All I was doing was relating what happened with me. The point is that we have no real idea what they really think.
Also, as LL said, you are in no position to ask her to make a choice. All choice is with you. You have to make a decision to live your life the way you want to live. You can't ask anything of her. The ball is in the ex's court. She will have to make the move. And who knows, she may make it some day and you will have moved on.
The main thing is be open to all of life's possibilities. Expect only from yourself. Don't expect anything from others. Your ex knows that you are there. In my opinion, she doesn't have to do a damn thing and she shows no desire to do anything but coast along.
