I know what you are saying,I guess a person just believe what makes them comfortable.If she is seeing this guy they are doing a good job of hideing it.She has me stay over at her house till when ever i want to leave and spends time helping and does all this other family stuff.So are my chances better if I tell her to make a choice or just keep spending time and seeing what happens?I still get cell bill so I know when she calls him and its always just 1 minute so either they aren't talking or he calls her back and I don't think this is it because there has been several times we have gotton back from somewhere and she has asked me to check her caller ID.each day is its own and I wait for them to pass.