dlt1, Say hello to another bad guy, LOL! They are going to see us the way they want, even though they are as much to blame, really even more. You are doing the right thing, you can't worry about her feelings, when it comes to the legal things. I applaud you.
As far as a friendship, things will be bad for a while, but if you are open to that, and show her only that, she might eventually come around. A bitter D, is a terrible thing, just be glad there are no kids involved, that is where things really get messy, as you know, I know that all too well.
On the subject of the bills, I agree, you no longer live there, I suggest you don't wait for the W, on that one, get those taken care of ASAP!
When you go through the house, and start the dividing, try to do it as friendly as possible. My W and I didn't/couldn't do that at all, it was right after I found out about the one night-er, so there was some real anger there, So she stayed at a motel, while I pretty much took, everything I could take. I Left most of the furniture, knic-knacs, and other things that were not important at the time. I am glad she wasn't there, surely, there would have been one heck of a fight. There was too much emotion on both our parts to deal with that, and there still is on her part, so far, I still have things over there, and she hasn't said anymore on the subject. Last time we discussed it, I told her, I would get whatever I have left, when I get my own place.
Now that the OM is moved in, you would think she would want my stuff, out of there, but it is still there, Heck, they are even sleeping in the bed I bought, but I don't care, she can burn it, for all I care. I now have a great bed here, with a beautiful headboard, that I built, and it is way better than the one that I left, and the house that I helped my mom get, where I live now, I know my W would just love, too bad, she still hasn't seen it, but the kids have, and they have told her how nice it is.
Still, she can't go very far in her house, without being reminded of me, maybe she likes being reminded of me, I don't know, but I do know, that she still wears a lot of the jewelery and clothes, I bought her, I, on the other hand, have destroyed and trashed almost everything she ever gave me, I have my regrets now, but what is done is done, and I have and will buy all new things, now. Take care.
