It is very typical of any addiction. He will revisit the "high" when going through withdrawl. Expect this to happen. You both need help with this. Help where both of you can sit together and get your frustrations out! You are correct in wanting total honesty. It is one of the best ways for you to heal from this and he NEEDS to know it. go to http://www.marriagebuilders.com they deal almost exclusively with affairs and have a section dedicated to restoring a marriage. Print it all out and see what he is providing for you and what he isn't. Also gather what you need to be doing to empower him to keep up his commitment. This is a two way street. Your part and his. You need to heal the thoughts and feelings of distrust, anger and resentment. He needs to get clear of the hold of the addiction and understand what he needs to provide to you to assist you on a path of healing.
This is tough. Seek some professional guidance from a therapist who shares your commiment.
Stay patient, you have fantastic opportunity to have a great relationship with your H.
