Ok, so he comes back to go change my oil. I didn't even know that he took my keys to the car and left. I just notice that friends truck is gone and I look in the garage and his car is there and mine is gone.
Anyway when he comes back, he thanks me for the Thank you card I left in my car for him and the Dove chocolate and he bends to kiss me. I was standing my the washing machine with my back to him and I just turn my head and start putting the laundry into the washer.
I go into the bedroom and start dusting. He follows me in there and while I'm dusting he is doing small talk and then he finally says. "so under our current conditions, would you still go out to dinner with me." I said "of course, if you ask me and I don't have something else planned. I enjoy your company and we always have fun." He says "and if you have something else planned, then would you still go with me?" I say "NO. that isn't the right thing to do. If you want to do something with me, you need to make plans with me ahead of time. I'm not going to be your last minute date. He then says "we are still golfing tomorrow, aren't we?" I said yes and I'm going to church in the morning. You are welcome to come." He says, "I might." That usually means I won't, but not ready to commit to that. Then he asks me to dinner tonight. I'm dying to say yes, but you all would be proud of me. I said, "I already have plans. Thank you for asking. Next time you will have to ask me before I have made other plans."
He then proceeds to leave and says have a nice evening and hugs me and I turn my head which produces a kiss on my cheek instead of the lips and I notice as he turns to leave he has tears in his eyes. I so much wanted to be with him, but I knew I couldn't. It was easier though because I looked in his car while he was gone and saw a insulated wine carrier and opened it and there was an empty wine bottle in it. He doesn't have a wine carrier, rarely drinks wine and if he does, he hates the wine that was in the carrier.
So I think I'm going to go to dinner at my golf club (by myself) and then I'm going to see the movie Hairspray (also by myself). H was the actual musical when it was in town with OW. This sucks!!!!
Faith
H 48 W 57 M 15 yrs T 18 yrs No children EA 1/12/06 Moved out 3/10/07 & 8/16/07 Back on 5/18/07 2nd Thread
I say "NO. that isn't the right thing to do. If you want to do something with me, you need to make plans with me ahead of time. I'm not going to be your last minute date. He then says "we are still golfing tomorrow, aren't we?" I said yes and I'm going to church in the morning. You are welcome to come." He says, "I might." That usually means I won't, but not ready to commit to that. Then he asks me to dinner tonight. I'm dying to say yes, but you all would be proud of me. I said, "I already have plans. Thank you for asking. Next time you will have to ask me before I have made other plans." 
