I don't know how those of you who are dealing with your spouse with OP can deal with it. The though of my wife being intimate with the OM drives me crazy and completely occupies my thoughts. Especially when she indicates she still wants to work on our marriage but she just needs space. If our marriage was over I could probably forget about it and go on.
It's an obsession I wish I could get rid of but I just don't know how.
Svejk
HiSvejk.
prior to my H getting OW 2 weeks now, I was the same as you. The thought drove me crazy.
When he told me he had OW, initially I was shocked of course, but over a few days I came to accept it. What alternative do I have? I dunno why, but knowing that he has OW is easier than suspecting he has. I dunno, maybe it is about honesty. The worst thing about an affair for me would be the deciept and lies. as things stand now, for me, it is out in the open and I can deal with that. When it is hidden from you you just don't know what you are dealing with.
NC
Be The Greener Grass.
Me 40 H 42 Son 11 Married 15 years. Left May 2006 after gambling spree I had EA August 2006 OW Aug 07 after another gambling spree (she will make me happy - stop me gambling!) I filed for divorce 9th April 2008.
