Hi Sandy, Just read some of your thread. Great you're trying to work it out with your DH. Have you ever heard of light your fire by Dr. Ellen Kreidman? I heard several people talk about this on the boards. You can check her website lightyourfire.com. Not sure if it will help but you can always try!!! I'm kind of curious how she works aswell but not able to in my sitch...(yet). Will you let me know if you try her methods?