Your post shows an undercurrent of anger. Not the OJ type, but it is destructive to you. Somehow, I feel that it translates to the ex. At this point, you must stop this obsessing. You agree that you are doing and then do it again. Live your life. If she is going to come around watching you be strong and do the things you have to do will be the main impetus for her in deciding whether to return. We have to let go to be free.
I'm trying but it seems harder than when we weren't talking at all.She seems so happy when we are around each other what is wrong with her or what do I need to be doing different.We go to lunch and she doesn't even say bye she just walks out.Whats the deal
Quote: We go to lunch and she doesn't even say bye she just walks out.Whats the deal
I think they call it denial.
Dude, checked your thread. You've probably heard it before but maybe it needs to be said again, what are your goals and how are you going to get there?
Suit
"It's better to have no spouse than have a bad spouse"
I think I know what my goals are but everytime I think I have it figured out it seems like the rules change I know I shouldn't get all fired up because I don't spend one evening with her and she goes out to drink a beer but it's hard not to.
I hate it when all those wild thoughts run through your head and you think about things.I guess X was nice enough this weekend even if we didn't spend alot of time together this weekend.She just seems different and I have in my mind that its because she met someone when she went out fri night but I try to make myself believe this isn't true,I have no real signs and I even asked her if there was something different going on and she said no.The week will tell and I guess I will go from there.All I want her to say is that she will work on us.She says she isn't ready for a R yet.WTF its been almost 3 years since we were S and she still has her stuff at my house.
Well I asked her to lunch and she said sure and we even talked about going to another place out of town and she said maybe we could go there later in the week.Damn I have to remember to break apart the word ass/u/me when I have these nagging doubts.
So she isn't ready for a relationship, big deal. She still hangs around and does seem like she is trying to decide. I let anger get the best of me. Don't do the same.
As for lunch, who knows what it means.
Also, I would like to address the idea of goals. It is my opinion that you set goals for yourself. Be the best you can be. Don't set goals for her. All it will do is frustrate you.
I know you are so right and I stayed cool through it all.This weekend is my B-day so I kind of wonder if she will do or say anything. I will let what comes,come and see what happens.I wish there were some WAWs here that had similar feelings that could shed some light.Thanks again .
All situations are different. The reason you want to hear from a WAW is to give you comfort. Be comfortable with Randy and it won't matter what the ex does.
