Ok, sister-in-law just confirmed the A to me last night. Seems my W has told her as well as her own best friend that she never wants to speak to them again. It seems they called her out on the A, and she didn't like it too much. SIL didn't come right out and tell me point blank, but she threw enough hints out that I got the picture.
Coincidentally (?) W also called me yesterday and left a voice message that she doesn't know how she will ever stop being angry with me. She was crying through the whole thing, and what I really think it meant was that she doesn't know how to forgive herself for what she is doing. No matter our problems in the past, I think she knows that what she is doing with this guy is by far the worst possible way of handling our S, which is supposed to be a time of self-reflection and being alone to evaluate the M. I did respond to her message even though she said not to call, so...I sent a short email (no pressure, no blame, no pulling or pushing, no I love you's) letting her know that I still don't want to end our M, will not abandon her and letting her know of the positive changes I have been making (180). Her only response was "don't do this to me." Guilt perhaps? Think I will just sit back again and see what happens next.
