Dom is right. The only thing that might work for you and your wife is a Retrouvaille weekend. check out their website for dates and locations http://www.retrouvaille.org. You could make a mini-vacation of it meeting your wife in whatever city you choose. But unless you find a way to get together in one place, the follow-up sessions would be impossible. The weekend is the crux of the program; used to be all there was, then they expanded it. So it can save marriages all by itself. But it takes more work on your part to make it work. But it does change the dynamic in the marriage, and that's what you say you need. So check it out. And good luck!
