I just don't know. The tears could be from anger not remorse. I know when I suggested Retrouvaille to my H it was at our lowest point. At the end of an argument that was really ugly and in public. When we knew that we couldn't even be together in public anymore without embarrassing ourselves. We were desperate. But on the other hand, OW had let him go by then. So he didn't have a safety net. And he knew I had proof of the affair and he wouldn't look good in court. SO he had no choice but to agree. You are right though, Retrouvaille would be great if you could get her there.
