You are both right,I live my life but we spend alot of time together,I think I need to do whatever makes her think right now and if and when she falls more then make her do the effort.I wish so many times that the shoe was on the other foot for just a day.She knows how I feel and i guess all I can do is wait and see or go on and meet someone else.I did tell that if she dated someone else then I would figure she was done and that would be that.Last summer she went on vacation with me and she said after wards that she was seeing if she could develope any feelings and I think thats what she is doing now.