I woke up today and realized just how bad my communication skills were during my M. On our wedding night, H said to me "let's never fight" and I replied something along the lines of we will but we will always love each other. I was proud of how I responded but it wasn't right! I should have been more empathic and responded with "What about fighting scares you?" or "Disagreements will come up, How do you visualize us handling them". One thing I really want to learn during this is how to communicate. I have taken through work tons of communication classes and know what to say but actually practicing it was different.
Right now I need to figure out what to say to DD. Yesterday, I went to a play with a guy and my neighbors. This was not a date in my mind and he knows my situation (plus he is over 10 years my senior). Anyway, he followed me to DD's work after play because I had an hour to kill and we sat and talked. DD came out of her work and walked with straight back our car. I followed and she refused to talk to me. I stated asked what about the situation made her uncomfortable, what did she feel I did did wrong, why was she mad (not in this order)? and she remained mute. <sigh> At least I tried the right words, I think! This guy purchased season tickets when I did and will be sitting with us. Stupid of me, probably, but he didn't/doesn't mean anything to me beyond a person. I don't know what to do!!!
Sitting quietly doing nothing, the flowers bloom effortlessly.
bomb: Jan 25, 2006 not seen since DD moved in with H - 9/1/08 H filed for divorce - 11/2008 Divorce dismissed by courts - 4/2010 still nothing
