Just checking in to let you know us no-longer-regular-posters, are usually regular lurkers and thinking of you. Good for you on your attitude, and for the possible good news of 50% with your girls.
It may be hard but LISTEN TO YOUR LAWYER, honey; you are paying him to guard your best interests. You (we all) are conditioned to believe (hope?) that your W has your best interests in mind as well, but it's not true at present and it is NOT in your best interest to defer to her and be Nice Guy (there is a fine line, b/c frankly we have more respect for the Firm and Manly Men, yet don't be a d*ck, etc). Nice Guys get jerked around.
There are threads floating around talking about this website and book: http://www.nomoremrniceguy.com/ngs.php Just thought I'd throw it out there as another possibility. Of course I may be off base.
I think also that God put your friend's sitch in your path so you can support him, and gain your own insight for how far you've come personally.
Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Is 43:18-19
If it seems slow in coming, wait. It's on its way. It will come right on time. Hab 2:3
