I had prepared a response but somehow it never made it to the board.
First, with baby steps. Don't think about that. No disrespect to KAW, but baby steps are something we know of ourselves, we can't attribute any motives to others actions. I had been through many of the same "baby steps" and in the end she was stepping away. If you recall in the movie, "What About Bob," the baby steps were about Bob and no one else. I have seen tons of people on this board talk about their ex's baby steps! We don't know what they are thinking unless we ask.
As for you, you need to stay cool and focus on being the best you can be. If you are your best, you give the marriage the best chance of working out. I know how difficult it is not to obsess over things and that is ok. Stay cool.
