I think the first chapter is SO full of insight. I agree whole heartedly. I am not the one who wants the divorce and was pretty blindsided by H's wish for one stated to me at the end of July. He has moved out. OW is in the picture. I want to copy and anonymously mail him the first chapter - it addresses his "feeling trapped". I think he feels he is the only one to ever feel like that. He is sure there is no hope for us. I see our relationship as 95% positive, he see 95% negative. As far as I know, he isn't talking to anyone about how he is feeling - doesn't "believe" in counseling and won't confide in any of his male friends. Does anyone advise anonymously sending him the chapter? With a fake note from some anonymous guy friend who has been through it? By the way, I am having to go with LRT because at this stage he is not wearing ring & not talking unless it is a business discussion about finances or our son.
