Thoughts on phone calls

[BryanS]

OK, so my story is on another thread, I won't waste space here retelling it. I do have a question about phone calls. I have tried to back off but still find myself speaking/e-mailing W almost daily, mostly about dissolution paperwork or selling the house. It occured to me after reading multiple threads here for the better part of the afternoon that I always answer the phone when she calls, that I always respond immediately to her e-mail.

Tonight she called and I wasn't feeling great (allergies) so I didn't answer. Truthfully, another part of the reason I didn't answer is that I don't want to feel like I'm always waiting on her to contact me; don't want to give her that impression. I know she wanted to talk about the house because we had some folks look at it this afternoon but I had sent her an e-mail earlier on detailing what happened and what I thought. Figured I could talk to her tomorrow. About 20 mins ago, she called again and I decided to answer it. First thing she said is "I thought you were avoiding me" somewhat accusatory. I told her I wasn't feeling well and that I was planning on talking to her tomorrow. She responded, sounding kind of hurt, and said "You couldn't call me?" and then "Well, I'll talk to you tomorrow" and hung up as I was saying goodnight.

So my question is, what's everyones guidelines about contact? I think it's good that she still wants to talk but I don't think it's good that she assumes I'm waiting on her all the time. Literally, there was a 3 hour window between the first and second calls (didn't leave a message the first time around either) during which she concluded that I was avoiding her.

This is part of my 180. I would normally jump at the chance to talk to her but I'm trying not to. Am I just pissing her off? Or is this a healthy thing to try. I still want to keep communication open, I just don't want to be looked at as always there because I have nothing better to do. Do I apologize or just maintain that I didn't feel like talking about it and felt I had already covered the subject in an e-mail she never responded to? I'm confused. Thoughts would be appreciated. Thanks.