What do you think W STBXWW would say if you approached her about the kids and their feelings? Not a good talk, I am thinking. That's so hard, because you don't want to disregard their feelings (with things like "Oh you love your mom, you want to be with her" and stuff like that) but you don't want to be read as 'feeding' in their negative feelings about her. This is the painful part, and just know in your heart, you have been honest from day one, your kids are old enough to know how they feel, and continue being the ROCK that you are!
