Left in Cali, I, too, let my marriage be at the bottom of the list. I never meant to, but it was 'easy' to do, that's for sure. I can see now all of the things I have done to get us to where we are (H also did things to put our marriage last, even before the A) but like I tell my H, *I* am willing to own up to those, try to fix them, and move on with our marriage. He, on the other hand, isn't sure what he wants anymore.
