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Basically it is No Fault with "equitable division of assets" the possibility of alimony. Since my W has been at home for 10 years and we have been married for 15, I could end up having to split assets, giver her primary custody, and write her a check for 60% of my salary. Cool huh! At least it has the effect of making you want to work on your M REALLY HARD!


there did it work??? ;\) that really sucks. Of course if it was the other way around, the man leaving and the W trying to DB, then I'd say, good! I guess the laws really don't work all the time, because how does the law know if you were a horrible person and she didn't have any choice but to leave. But then how does it know if your trying so hard to become a better person and make things work and she doesn't give a care. It's really unfair.

Snooping can be a bad thing. it ultimately doesn't really tell us what we need to know, although I think in some instances it can be a good thing. I once snooped on H's phone to see he wrote "you are so gorgeous" to OW, a word he's never ever used with my name, not even beautiful, so that really really stung. still does a little, but it did make me get into perspective that I wasn't done yet...cause I think I might have started to slide a little around that time had I not seen that text.

I'm really sorry to hear your in a mess. I really contribute my strength during my sitch to Christ. I really feel that I would have been a mess and failed had I not had him to lean on.

I will pray for you tonight, for strength and encouragement.

Me 33 H 34 S9 S3
M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs)
EA/PA 1/2006
DB 5/2006
H wants D 6/2006
H wants ME 8/2006
H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006
H erased OW off phone! 2/2007

"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."