Thanks,thats a great way to put it in perspective.i am trying to stay distant and not push.I guess I feel a little guilty because I don't know what I would do if another woman that I was interested in came into my life.I think I am scared that if I did get involved with someone else she would come running back and maybe for the wrong reason.
Another decent evening,XW came and helped at soccer practice and then we went to eat.I'm so close to giving up but I promised I would wait until after her surgery and I will.Distance and love,Distance and love
Things are still going,saturday evening we had hoped to go out for supper but a friend came by to let his D play with ours at her house so I just kind of said I didn't know if I would come over,she kept saying you should come over she would fix supper if I was hungery. So when I got there we decided pizza would be better so I got some and then stayed for a while and went home. Yesterday she went to dinner at church and then last night she asked if I wanted to go to concert at church so we all went together. Afterwards her uncle stopped her and said how glad he was to see us and hoped we got back together.I just started talking to some other people because I know she was uncomfortable but I heard her say we will have to see what happens.Tomorrow I will be at hospial with her and then taking the kids back to see her in the evening,I hope everything goes ok.
Just checking in,I have been spending most of my time at the hospital.Everything is going good.I am just taking it one day at a time and being there for her.
Had a good weekend,it seemed that if we weren't at her place she was calling to see where we were.I made her meals,did laundry and took her for a drive she even called and asked if I would.I don't know where things are going and I know I will feel alot of disapointment if it doesn't work out but I am giving it 110%.Theres a fine line between staying around her to much and not enough.
Things are still good,I just wish I knew how to handle everything.XW asks me to help her and take her to Dr.,to spend time with her and do other little things.What do I do about the touching part,I am following the advise I read about just touching their hand or putting a hand on their should at first. I hope this is going somewhere,maybe she has seen that what I say is true and she is building trust back.I am trying to give her some space but she doesn't seem she wants me to give her to much.She even had me check her caller ID the other night to tell her who had called and this is a big step for her.Is there any WAW that can give advise on how to handle this stage?
Another good weekend,we were together most of the time.i just wish I knew if there was anything I could do different to let her feel closer to me.Is there any WAWs out there that can shed some light on whether they made the first moves as far as say hugging are holding hands or anything.Should I tell her every so often that I love her or just wait?
You can always put what I call "feelers" out there and watch for her response. Place your hand / arm on her shoulders, hold her hand, give her a quick hug, a kiss on the forehead, etc ... She may not directly acknowledge the act, but watch to see if she was comfortable with it or not. So long as she doesn't pull away or cringe, then continue touching working towards acceptance. You'll know she's accepted it if she starts initiating contact too.
I would stay away from ILY's until you hear it from her first, but that doesn't mean you can tell her you missed being around her today or that you've been thinking about her.
Kaw, Thanks for the reply,we went to lunch together again today.I try to give her an out in case she doesn't want to but now she seems almost mad if I do that.That makes every meal but 1 in 9 days that we have eaten together.I really think she is thinking and/or trying.Maybe there is hope,I know I just have to stay cool
