Still Tryin's new thread 2

[SuperDad]

First of all, Nikki, your knowledge of Vegas is a bit scary!

ST, Thanks again for your input:

SD...Is it really easy to quote like that?

Yup, just use the " above and paste in between the bracketed quotes.

It sounds like you are being a friend to her, but not trying to be friends per say. Thanks for clarifying.

I am trying to be...well I am trying to be the best person I can while giving her the time and space she needs to get through her MLC. It is so hard, but that which doesn't kill us makes us stronger!

I think you may be right that she may have to really break off from you before she can come back. Sometimes people really do need a "knock in the head" before they wake up. But what is good is you DBing with her witnessing it. I think it's hard for people to have their spouse leave and then they find DB and try to DB, but it's difficult because their spouse isn't with them much.

As with everything, timing is everything. I am trying to wait at least another month as there is some stuff going on right now which could give her the knock she needs. If not, I will have to take some action to more her forward.

Can I ask what the D law in FL is?

Basically it is No Fault with "equitable division of assets" the possibility of alimony. Since my W has been at home for 10 years and we have been married for 15, I could end up having to split assets, giver her primary custody, and write her a check for 60% of my salary. Cool huh! At least it has the effect of making you want to work on your M REALLY HARD!

How are you doing emotionally? are you doing things for yourself? Have you read For Men Only? by Shaunti Feldham

At this moment, I am a mess. I have been snooping to try to find financial docs, etc. to give to L. What I have found has truely shaken me. Nevertheless, I will regroup and move on.
I am definitely king of GAL (except tonight). I have been using the time I have to really work on myself, do things I felt I couldn't before due to W's control issues, spend more time with the kids, and have taken up some old hobbies (training for a triathlon, playing my violin)

I will look into this book. I have been reading some things that I assume have similar themes about the Yin/Yang nature of our relationships and it is clear that I could have been a better partner for my W. On the other hand, her issues are DAUNTING!

Have a great weekend, SD