If you have a craving for strange, a good first step would be admitting that to yourself. Once you do that, then you can decide what you want to do about it. some examples of choices would be, I want some strange. tell you H, get his input, If he doesnt approve, you can decide whether its worth ending your M over. If he does approve, start dating. get your own place. get a legal seperation. If you do it for you, it will work out. If you do it for revenge, youll only hurt yourself.
If he approved, what would be the purpose of separating and moving out?
Originally Posted By: blackfoot
A man who has 50x or more the amount of testosterone you do, will not be impressed by your hormonal angst and hormonal horniness.
Three times a month doesn't indicate an excess of hormonal horniness on his part.
Pressure is a turn-off. No pressure lets things continue the way they are. You've got to shake things up without putting him on the spot.
Originally Posted By: loonyqt
He can let loose, but he is often irritable (I think too much caffeine) and he definitely likes his own space - always has. He cares about me and is a nice guy (won't kill bugs, etc.) but definitely puts himself and his own time first (imho).
OK, now he's starting to make sense to me. Sex doesn't work too well with anxiety, which is what's probably driving him to spend as much time as he can get away with off by himself. Now here's the real bummer... you can't take that anxiety away from him. He might have been born with it, or he might have started carrying it around during his childhood and doesn't quite remember ever being without it.
a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.
