Need advice on WAW with OM

[svejk]

Even though I feel like I've made a huge turn around in detaching from my Wife and finally giving her space, I have days like today where I really miss her. Don't get me wrong, I have no desire to contact her anymore... I just want to leave her alone and give her the space she has been asking for.

But I have these horrible feelings that It took me too long to finally really implement what I should have been doing a few months ago, and it may be too late. Even if it's not too late I've certainly prolonged my agony by many months at the very least.

I feel like I've driven her towards the OM and now I'm afraid she is so emotionally and physically involved with him that she will have no thoughts for me unless something bad happens between them.

Just a word of advice for others on this forum: No matter how hard it may seem to implement, do what the Divorce Remedy books and experienced people on this forum say immediately or you will just be prolonging your agony and possibly ending a relationship that could have been saved. If your WAS asks for space, give it to them immediately and stop the calling/begging/pleading/snooping. GAL and get strong because this is the only chance you will have to win them back and make yourself a better person at the same time. Stop trying to control your WAS and work on yourself. I made so many mistakes that I'm lucky I'm not divorced already.

Everything you need to do is completely counterintuitive to what you feel like doing, but if you really want to win your WAS back you have to do whatever it takes to control the panic and fear of losing them, and then do the right thing.

Hopefully, I still have a chance, but my outlook is pretty bleak. I know I can handle whatever comes now, but I cannot forgive myself for not having the control and strength to do the right things much earlier in my sitch. Maybe I'm being to hard on myself, but I know if things don't work out I will have a hard time forgiving myself for not doing everything I could have done.

Svejk