"I don't want the kids to go rafting. You may not be dating OW, but you're involved with her emotionally in a way and to an extent that you haven't been with me for a while. You mentioned last night that for you the disconnect in our understanding of what you're doing colors our interactions, and though I trust you wouldn't consciously act in a way that would make the kids wonder what's going on, I think your relationship with her colors your interactions in a way that could be confusing to them.
I'll plan something fun with them and be out of the house before you go." (Thanks, Heimlich.)
Then I wrote a nice, friendly closing. What do you think?
This isn't going well. His behavior toward me right now is so cold that the kids are eventually going to wonder what's up. Though he agreed in theory last night that they don't need to know any sooner than they have to, he's not putting any effort into "acting normal" right now. Maybe this is that famed "being true to himself" he's talking about.
Can't wait to hear how/if he responds.
bar, regarding the basement apartment, I don't know whether I could accept it. By the time the thing was done, though, I think I will probably have moved on. And if our relationship were friendly then, it would probably be best for the kids. I can't say right now, though.
I think I'm going to add me a signature line: I'm not crazy.
Thanks, everybody, for the triage. I really needed help there, and I'm sure it won't be the last time!
