Thanks for the replys XW was talking about someone that works for me and I just said that he was doing his job and she made a comment that maybe thats why we aren't back together yet becasue we argue all the time and I said in a very calm voice that I wasn't argueing.she then said that she wasn't getting back into a R that she argued all the time and I told her I didn't want that either and that we should work on communicating and talking and I didn't say anymore.I did say somehting a little later about that she should come down to my house and point out the rest of the stuff she wants so I can get it boxed up,she didn't answer and got really nice the rest of the evening.then last night when I was over at her house she gave me some household stuff and asked me to take it to my house. WTF is that about.Something else,I went to the store to pick up some stuff and took the girls with me and when I got back she had my dog,she had gone to my house and gotton her and brought her to the house,after supper I took my dog and went home.That makes twice in the last week she has gone to my house without me knowing.