Thanks lostlove, Today is one of those dreaded days when something is digging at your insides and you want to call them but you know you shouldn't. Last night XW came by the house an stayed for 30 minutes while I was cooking supper for the girls and she just hung out.The d asked her if she wanted to eat but she said she wasn't hungery,I told her to have a good evening.After over a year of being D I wish I knew what my chances were,this being friends is hard. I try to take the right steps and I guess what I am doing must be helping.What is she looking for?