How many details of OP did you get, want, need?

[SDFoundGirl]

I wanted to know a lot, and my H was willing to share. What I found was that knowing made it worse. It set me back a long time...I was holding on to OP much longer than H was, and it affected our R.

What does knowing achieve for you? What's the goal? OP is in the past...OP was more about your H's state of mind and the dissatisfying M then it was the OP. Knowing more doesn't change what happened. Better to focus your time and attention on here and now and how to make your M and R so great that cheating isn't an attractive option.

Once I let go of OP and worked on ME and what *I* could control, THAT'S when I stopped having the questions and started focusing on making myself and my M great.

SD