The space you are now giving her is allowing her to finally reflect on herself and you. She is now more able to see things more clearly and it would seem that she is seconded guessing her choices. Sounds like you are doing great creating your own life and not letting her hold you back. Continue doing what you are doing. Also good for you to not giving in to her request for you to handle D14 financial request.
“Do you want to be RIGHT or want to be LOVED” “You have to have a life to share a life with someone” “When you stop resisting, you start learning”