I've been having that same problem, reconciling detachment and being DONE. Just seemed like I couldn't detach without letting go of all hope. But, I like the explanation Dom gave, that makes a lot of sense. Like I've heard in another context, it's simple but it's not easy.


Me: 32 in OH
Wife: 29 in MD
Married: 4 years
No kids
Seperated 14 months