Just wondering how many details did your spouse share with you about the OP? Were they open or closed? How much of what happened did you feel you wanted, needed, and got, to help you with piecing? Was pieicing hindered by what they wouldn't or didn't share? Do you still have unanswered questions that bother you or trigger you to make healing or moving forward difficult?
I know many people say forget it and move on... but pushing down questions and bottling them inside doesn't seem healthy to me. I can't help but believe that laying everything out on the table, rather than leaving it to the worst things in your imagination, isn't healther. So you can just look at it, digest it and then move on. Otherwise it's always a question, always a mystery, blown up and hanging over you....
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
