My husband wanted a fun and social party girl rather than the happy content safe wife who had never been in a bar and only drank one margarita a year
This is exactly what she is to him. I was and am the one to do everything, to run the house, etc. But I took it to far, and put to much on my plate, and forgot to make room for myself and my marriage. That is my fault in it. She makes him feel wanted, needed, and she does not give him any slack for his drinking since she drinks just as much as him. She is one of the supervisors at work, and they all hang out, she is like one of the guys. Everyone who knows her agrees she is not attractive at all, but to my H that doesn't matter, she makes him feel like the most perfect person in the world.
I am GALing and I realize that his commment yesterday about asking if I am doing this for myself was his way to make sure I wasn't doing this for him, or to get him back. He always asks that, because he does not want me to "hurt". I am honestly enjoying my GAL time and feeling like I really am starting to detach. I am becoming healthy, and spend less and less time thinking about him and the OW and more and more time feeling sorry for the both of them, because they really do not see what they have gotten themselves into.
All my friends tell me they always thought I could have done much better then him and say that maybe this is a blessing in disguise. I sort of agree, but I will continue to DB and GAL and put the rest in God's hands. If he wants to come back, he is going to have to want it all on his own and I finally realized that. I am sure him hanging out here does not make OW happy at all, but to bad. LOL
