I hear ya... and yes, Ow can have my H as well. He isn't worthy of me right now. He would need to do some major changes and sucking up in order to ever be back in my life again.
The other day H made plans with d7 to stay over night at MIL's house with him and Ow! ( H is house sitting for her)
He never talked to me about it. Just went ahead and asked d if she wanted to sleepover. We never agreed to overnighter's during the weekdays. So he has no legal right to keep her if I say no.
D meantioned it to me yesterday so I called H. I got his VM so I left him a message.
I told him that he needed to discuss things with me first before he makes any plans with our d. I also told him that b/c we still aren't D yet and he knows that I don't agree with him about d sleeping over with him and his GF. I have been over it with him before. I want us to bring our d up knowing the difference between right and wrong.
D does want to sleepover with him , so I tried to explain to her why she couldn't sleep over. I told her that her daddy and I were still married and that I didn't think it was right that she stay over with her dad and his GF until we are divorced. Of course she doesn't understand.
I get no support from H as he called me back and said that the divorce will final soon enough so "what difference does it make at this point?" He said that "I don't have to agree with the way he lives his life and that he would never put our d in any danger or in a situation that would hurt her. He told me that "he has no say in who I choose to be with and he can be with whomever he chooses to be with as well."
I told H he was missing the whole point. It wasn't about putting our child in danger, but it was about setting a good example for her.
He just doesn't get it! Is he really that selfish? I have lost complete respect for him. He has been living his life for 2 1/2 years as if he is a "single man" who is already divorced. He has been seeing Ow , living with Ow, lying about everything, and bringing our kids around this Ow during this time. He isn't thinking about how his actions and how he treats others is teaching his child the to be a good person.
I am sick of his crap... I really don't respect him anymore. He has changed so much.
I talked to H this morning. I told him since he already made the plans with d7 and she wants to stay over I wasn't going to tell her no. I asked him to talk to me in the future before he does it again. He said he would. I also told him that I had no say in how he chooses to live his life, but when it comes to our d I was going to express my concerns whether he liked it or not.
I ended the conversation saying that I just "didn't approve" of how he is handling this situation. He said " you have made that very clear."
But guess what? It didn't seem to matter or change anything. Ow is there with my H and d tonight playing "family".
It makes me sick..... I don't respect him anymore. He obviously doesn't respect me and hasn't for the past 3 years!
I am also done standing... I ditto what mrs said today.
No one knows what the future will bring, but for now I don't like my H , don't trust my H and disrespect him. He is not acting like anyone I want to be with. I deserve so much better than this.
D7 got dropped off this morning around 8:15. D told me that they were talking last night and she meantioned I was going to go to a baseball game tonight with some friends. H's reply was " It's going to rain, that's not going to be a very good time." "Your mother's going to a baseball game, she doesn't even like baseball."
What a jerk. We went to baseball games with the kids sometimes and actually H and I used to play on a coed softball team.
I wish he would keep his comments to himself!!! I also TM him last night asking him to look for the wedding album again. He didn't reply to my TM. D7 said she meantioned it to him last night as well. He said he hasn't had a chance to look for it! Yeah, right.... he doesn't care to look for it!
I hope he is miserable... is that why he has to make his stupid comments? Do you think he is starting to be a bit curious about my life b/c I am moving on??? I sure hope so. I want him to feel the pain about what he has done and WHO he has LOST ---- me!
I wonder if he ever will........ feel the loss...? He seems so happy with Ow these days. They are still planning to get a puppy together. H told d last night that if Ow doesn't get a puppy before her birthday that he was going to get one for her birthday gift... Ugh! I hate that he loves her.
He is showing a little jealousy here....not enough to bring him back so don't get your hopes up. I understand why his comments are disgusting to you but he is trying to downplay the fact that you are starting to move forward.
Stop thinking about him and do things for yourself.
Oh I plan to continue moving forward. I'm not waiting anymore for him. At this time he is starting a life over with Ow, that is very clear. Like I said before who knows what the future brings, but for now I must move on as if he and I are over forever.
What do you mean by the ending? Of our marriage? I think he is a coward that is why he left the way he did and has been avoiding the truth b/c he is not man enough to be honest.
I agree that I don't think he is truly happy. However, he will won't ever turn back to me. He is searching for happiness and in his mind I am not the one that will make him happy b/c he has experienced life with me and his eyes "I failed". He will keep searching for the "woman of his dreams" that will complete him. Personally I don't think this woman exists. He used to tell me I was the "woman of his dreams" and that he never loved anyone until he met me.
I don't know too many people that could feel good about themselves after walking out on their family and betraying their spouse. Deep down inside he hates himself.
Hi, I meant that he is not happy with her. If he was he would have had remorse I believe and tried to tell you he was sorry that things were over between you. He is eaten up with guilt because he is wrong. He has to blame you because of what he's done.
