need help to win back WAW

[Dom R]

my point is, you are not evaluating the situation.
you are looking at what you HOPE will happen, closing your eyes, and saying, "whatever you want, dear".

"evaluation" implies that you have actually done a logical analysis of the situation. you havent.
you havent done any research on it. you're brand-new at this. but you are somehow convince that what you are doing is the right thing. Where's the sense in that?
If marriages could be saved so easily by "what feels right", then there would be no need for books, or counsellors on the subject, because we could all just trust our feelings, and everything would turn out fine. right?


Dont "listen to me" -- DO THE RESEARCH!

Or, if you dont have time... then trust me that I have done the research myself.

I'm not bitter... i'm battle-scarred, from experience. My biggest regret, is that i agreed so readily to my wife moving out, and settling on children's schedules so easily.
I didnt start reading about marriage recovery books until a month into the separation; at which point, it was far too late to reverse what had become an "entrenched" situation.

[When she announced she was moving out, i was in shock from the bomb of discovering proof of her online infidelity., and didnt really know what else to do. ]

I'm trying to let you benefit from my experience, rather than you having to learn "the hard way".
Dont just go along with separation, with a "yes dear" attitude.
Show love... show concern and appreciation for her needs and feelings as far as space goes... but draw the line at you moving out.


alternatively, take time off work or whatever, try to get a same-day MC apointment over the phone with someone good, and ask point blank, "is it better for me to move out, or to try to hang in there?"