I'm usually the first to think the H is lying in these cases. In your case, I'm not so inclined -- it seems just as likely to me that your gut feeling is caused by projecting your own feelings around your own lack of interest in the M, intimacy issues, (discussed on your other thread) and EA onto H. It almost seemed to me that you came here so that you could quit looking at things about yourself that are (very understandably) difficult to examine and try to change.
There is some truth in this - there's alot of things I don't like about myself. The fact that I was stupid was one. Another is I don't trust myself in making decisions and frankly I can't make them, thus is why I'm here.
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it's time to increase the pressure by stating your requirements
Are you suggesting that I say, honey, I can't live like this so unless we have sex then one of the components of our marriage is missing and I won't live without a whole marriage?
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So, for your sake, don't buy into the idea, most women don't like sex. Many more women would like sex if certain conditions were present.
Thank you for posting that. I remember when I found out about his A, soon after I found a XXXX rated CD that he had hidden (he knows that I hate porn in the house). I confronted him and he told me at that time that all men watch porn and if I have a hang up about it that's my problem. Now, I don't have sex anymore and he again tells me that's my problem as aforementioned. What's up with these confusing statements.
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How are you going to live the rest of your life without sex?
Oh, I'm taken care of - according to my H. That means he will make sure that I have an orgasm which doesn't involve intercourse. Is it wrong to want more? Damn it, I'm so freaking confused.
