I am the same way. I am getting better at detaching but sometimes I find my self even just wanting to hear his voice on the phone or even a phone call. Its hard to just become ther friend. I still read over and over the article that Bobelina posted on my thread and you cali about detaching. It is a life saver. My oldest son is an anchor to me too. He tells me just let it go and move ahead. If dad trys to be negative just say I don't deal with negative anymore. I agree that I don't think they realize the control they have. In fact I'm just realizing to what degree the control my H had on me. I didn't even think about it. I came and went as I pleased and did what I wanted but when you look back its funny what you see that you didn't before.
We have all gotten stronger since we have become friends on here and everyone has grown a little. Thanks for the support it has helped...
