Cali,
Just hang in there...It sounds like you did have a good conversation. I know how it feels about them just wanting to be friends. My H is the same way. He wants that but doesn't want me involved in any of his stuff. We are business wise of course. He just wants to live his own life. I am like you if I would have known about DB before when he was willing to try again maybe things would have worked out differently. but now he just holds resentments against me. Is it not amazing the control in little ways they have over us....

Hang in there and Stay strong.....