What do you mean that isnt the right time? Would you give a more in depth description of how it goes- when it goes wrong?
I believe she becomes more apt to reject when she has been drinking. Although early in the relationship it was quite the opposite.
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How often did you initiate in the early part of your R? With how you have been describing you W, I wouldnt be surprised if it wasnt very much.
Pretty often but initiation was pretty simple back then. We both wanted it all the time. Immediatly after we got married it dropped from almost every night to once or twice a week. At that time I became the initiator. I think I did initiate more often but that's when the rejection started. Can't remember the specifics to tell the truth. I do remember one night being very angry over it though. That night may have had quite an effect on the R.
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How often do you touch your wife? How often do you hug her/pick her up/ pat her on the butt/ slide the back of your hand down her arm/ run your fingertips over her neck/play her hair/ play with her ears/lips/nose/eyelids, hug her from behind/ slide your hands under her shirt(on her tummy) etc?
Several years ago it was constantly. And at that time I think she loved it. But for the last 3 years that has been nearly impossible. She would constantly position herself in a defensive position. Unreachable. Lately I've been able to do it a little bit. She doesn't always pull away anymore but she is very uneasy.
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one way to get in a good frame of mind is to think of a similar situation where you have a good frame of mind. When you are instructing your students, do you have any qualms or second thoughts about moving them around, changing their stance, or changing their form? You dont think about it you just do it, right?
Yes this is true. And it is even true when she is my student.
