probably because his W gave him the impression she liked him -As Is.
Tangible advice to help reconnect with hubby (preferred) or suggestions as to why/why not an affair in this situation would help... an affair would preclude you from claiming the monogamous nature that you state in your subject line. an affair requires you to dishonestly have a R with two or more people simultaneously I seriously doubt you are a nympho either.
If you have a craving for strange, a good first step would be admitting that to yourself. Once you do that, then you can decide what you want to do about it. some examples of choices would be, I want some strange. tell you H, get his input, If he doesnt approve, you can decide whether its worth ending your M over. If he does approve, start dating. get your own place. get a legal seperation. If you do it for you, it will work out. If you do it for revenge, youll only hurt yourself. the other choice would be I dont want some strange, hence an affair wouldnt really solve anything. I think you want some strange. buts thats just me. I also think you are monogamous.
Or you can continue in your fantasy land of monogamous nympho's and misleading your H to believe such a thing exists too, and tht you are one of them. Youll never tell him the real you and he wont ever be able to know the real you.
Do it without the screaming.
A man who has 50x or more the amount of testosterone you do, will not be impressed by your hormonal angst and hormonal horniness.
